Pros n Cons of having a GirlFriend
First of all disclaimers : This post is written just fr fun and is not there to hurt anyone's sensitivites. Neither does it says anything about my current status - Commited/ Single and ready to mingle/ single but not interested. So please do not make any assumptions n deductions. just total time paas.... considering its just 2:30 am and its a bit too early to sleep in WIMWI...... so just writing all crap which is going around in my mind.pata nahin ajeeb sa mausam aaya hua hai. Most of the blogger friends whose blogs i visit are writing over the similar stuff- 'the kind of partner they want'. if u dont believe me then go to any of these - ruchi, sayesha(yeh to pata nahin kitna likhti hai.....:p), abhinav n a number of others........ the list goes on. dont know ki achanak sabko partner ki kya zaroorat pad gayi... i was a bit confused abt this new trend..... thought it was a long time since 'i love u' virus striked....... but thoda dimag( yeah i bet tht i hv one) khujlane ke baad i realised tht a special date is approaching - the 14th Feb n everyone is busy 'pataoying' sumone. so i was just wondering whether i shud give it a shot too...:p.
first let me start with my dorm- my new close family, a home away frm home. coming to the point, there are 18 people in my dorm, consisting both of fachhas n tuchhas( IIMA lingo fr seniors). n around 7-8 of them hv tht 'special' friend, or at least pretend to hv one...:). so i decided ki zara in 'experienced' logon ke lifestyle par zara nazar rakhein n analyse the pros n cons of having a girlfriend. this wud give me an idea whether i need a girlfriend now or shud i wait fr sum more time
coming to the pros-
- u get sumone with whom u can talk. yeah if she is not frm Ahmedabad this is probably the only way u can remain in touch with her. This place provides u with such varied kind of experiences tht u wud always would like to share. There are moments when u need someone someone to talk to..... sumtimes when u screw up the quizzes ( tht does happen a lot), lots of night outs when u wud love to call her in morning at 6am before catching up the 2 hr sleep before the class, talking abt the crap which sum of the profs throw at us ( most of the profs here r really gud), regular parties we hv, n those different kinda experiences which any guy wud hv experienced in a Boy's hostel ... n its not only abt sharing ur experiences..... u also come to know whts going on in the world outside the campus.... n if she is from delhi, i cud get all the news regarding the events going on in 'saaddi' delhi. i do hv my set of close friends with whom i share most of my stuff, but sumtimes i hv to think twice before calling them up- reasons being they being busy during the day at office( though one year stint at s/w industry hv taught me tht a s/w engg is busy only during the canteen session.) or during nite when their mom looks at them with those strange looks ' kabhi to gharwalon se bhi baat kar liya karoge'...... at those moments u like to hv a frnd whom u can ping n disturb at any moment n who wud be ready to listen to all crap n arbit chattel u r going to throw at her.
- one of my tuchha's girlfriend sends lots of chocolates and cakes every 15 days, n we being the 'caring' n 'obedient' fachhas make sure tht the whole supply does not last more than a week..... the dormmates wud fight over a lot of things, but on this account the viewpoint is unanimous - their relationship rocks, at least does well fr the dormmates :p !!!!!! now this is a real big advantage as well as incentive of hving a girlfriend. imagine sumone sending u a lot of gud stuf to eat after every few days..... u get a chance to forget the crap u r forced to eat in the mess.... this is a real big big fayda i m looking fwd to :p
- the personality changes n u become a bit more responsible person, at least try to become one . i m a real lazy n laid-back kind of guy.... one who does not like to take bath before 2 days n doesnt shave regularly.... but u start feeling obliged when sumone cares fr u...so when she asks whether i had my dinner properly, it wud be difficult to lie n say tht the food was gud. difficult not to execute the 'room-cleaning operation' which hv been pending fr a couple of months now. a person start to become mature in the way he talks, he dresses, he carries himself n all other similar stuff.
- One of my tuchha's GF acts as a morning alarm fr her.... yeah she religiously calls him up every morning half an hour before the class waking him up n motivating him to go to class.... another incentive fr me as i hv started to miss classes more regularly.... not a bad way to be woken up..... better to hv a sweet, mellifluous voice acting as a morning alarm than to hear tht cacophonous alarm of tht clock which i want to crush everyday while getting up.
coming to the cons, i can see a long list of them too
- first of all the inflated phone bills... most of these guys get a phone bill of around 4K per month... bahut badi amount hai.... i may be offered 'premium membership' by airtel guys, but itne bade bill ke paise kaun dega..... aur agar mere pitashree ko pata chal gaya then voh bolenge- 'beta wapis aa jaa..... shaadi may be a cheaper alternative'
- then all those rona-dhona n getting senti- now i m a fun loving,chill kinda guy who gets well with everybody.... a bit emotional sometimes but certainly not tht kinda person who can 'bear' with all those 'mushy-mushy' tantrums all the time.... bahut frank aadmi hun... n wud be really find it difficult to say -'u really look awesome n gorgeous' when she puts up couple of kgs on her body n a couple of inches across her waistline :p
- time -yaar there is one thing tht is really at premium at IIMA n tht is time.... whenever u get sum free time, it is probably better to hv a nap than talking endlessly with sumone on the other end. if i m going talk to her fr an hour everyday, she may say 'IIM ki seat kyun kharab kar rahe ho, useless fellow just spending time on phone' n if i did not talk fr tht one hour specified limit then she wud say ' wht careless chap i hv choosen... moron cant find sumtime fr me ...alas....iim ka hai to bhaav kha raha hai'
- variable costs go up - yeh roz-roz gift dena, chocolates, dresses- bahut headache ka kaam hai. n then wishing her on a number of days is really painful. a couple of dayz earlier one of my tuchha had a fight with her girlfriend over phone. the reason came out was tht the guy had forgotten her to wish 'Happy Rose Day'.... now i really felt pity fr tht guy... he had 2 painful assignments to submit the next day... he did not remember whether he had his dinner, so how was he expected to remember the Rose Day.... n then more n more new concepts r flooding the market apart frm the traditional ones - Valentine's Day, Friendship day... the days r not really far off when we wud be hving 'Father -In-Law Day' n 'Pet-in-law' days.... pata nahin tab kya hoga.
i m really confused at now... kahtein hain - 'this is kinda ladoo.... jo naa khaaye woh lalchayee n jo kha le woh pachtayee' :p. but its really fun fr us when we observe n tease those guys regarding their relnships
posted by amit @ 2:30 AM
24 Comments:
Hi amit,after a long time..
nice 2 c ur post bk.
jaldi decide karon yaar :)
only 8 days left 4 u
al the best :)
and what was the list u told abt the girl u want :P such a diplomat ;).....tum bhi kuch kuch despo waale symptoms nazar aane lage hain...
yaar itna headache nahin paalne kaa..just chill chill...and yes one more thing...woh rose thing was an atrocity..i swear..had i been in the guys position i wud have taken sanyaas :)
Awesome post. Only one flaw in your thesis paper.
What you have identified as 'variable costs' viz. chocolates, gifts etc. are actually 'fixed costs'. Not only are they classified under the 'market penetration' strategy but also get a say during the 'maturity' period of the RLC (Relationship Life Cycle).
Only the Good Lord knows when the 'Break Even' point will come.
;) Cheers.
hmmmmm....lemme give u some gyan albeit rotten!:D
now rose day and all is RUBBISH!
RUBBISH and some more RUBBISH!!!
but yes buddays becum thoda important,buddayz toh acquaintances ka bhi yaad rakha ja sakta hai...
Like if i had a bf i wud dump him if he went around wishing me a happy rose day..a happy sunflower day, a happy cauliflower day...
I wud say, arre hero heera lal....ab seedhe rakhi day par aana!
okay okay..i am not that mean..but i gess you get the drift??!!
I personally feel that girlfrnds/boyfrnds can be tooooo much of a faltoo ka rubbish, yaar!!
moreovr wid ppl like me who refuse to lie to folks at home , yeh bf hone ka chakkar little impossible hi hai!!!!
Anywayz agar koi thodi dhang ki ladki mile toh dot dot dot.
asheerwaad!
@ shreedhar : bhai, disclaimer nahin padha kya..... saaf-saaf likha hai koi assumption, deduction mat karna.... n how can u be so sure ki i m currently looking fr one and dont hv one already :p
@ ships : list jo maine tumhe batayi thi- arre parde mein rahne do, parda na uthao...parda jo uth gaya to bhed khul jayega :p
@ shekhar : arre variable in the sense ki costs rozana badhte rahtein hai... season ke hisaab se, mausam ke hisaab se n kisi special day ke hisaab se....:p. haan ek baat to sahi hai ki god only knows ki breakeven point kab aayega
@ monnwalker : thanks fr the aashirwaad..... jaise hi koi nayi milegi aapko zaroor bataonga....:pp
Amit Bhai !
Yar Apun log kitni bar discussion kiya hai is topic pe college mei... no use man !
Either u r in or u r out!
If u feel the need for that special someone then money and time doesnt count..
And if u keep thinking abt all thez things in a real relationship then Its just a time pas !
Waise yar Reliance ka phone both ways is the cheapest option :)
Cheers
Aj
Do read my post abt my new bike :p
@ aj : yaar hadh hi ho gayee... tu bhi mujhe nahin samjha....arre yaar i just wanted to make a hilarious kinda post by observing the traits of my dorm mates by observing their relnships with their GF n tu soch raha hai ki mein senti ho raha hoon... hadh hai :p
abe amit bhai sahi hai bhidu...
yar ye jo salli cons wali baat hai isse se darta hu..par bro telling u 1 thing i have been thru serious love and masti wala pyar..baap bindas maaja aata hai...sahi bol raha hu...waise post mast hai saala hone ka bill bahut aata hai ..apna to airtel karke sirf 20 rs aata hai...waise ladki ke bina adhuri si hai boss..coz women are the best gift 2 men..
agleed dude..ur in iim a dont let the chix get u!! all they want is the money enjoy ur life single !
time constraint is really a problem for the gal n guys in relationship ...time management ...probably we can learn by successfully managing a love affair...not only time management but one can manage anything well if could handle relationships... my prof. Mitra used to say.... well nice post carry on buddy....writing all crap which is going around in ur mind. :D
so it was just an observation... or you too tasted that laaddoo sometimee...
good knowledge amitji...so when ru planning to taste the ladoo..!!
hmmm.. all i can say is "it is better to love and come out of it.. than never love at all!!"
@amit
Salle teri rag rag se waquif hu
I know ur ishtyle...
But t'was just adding a few words of wisdom from my side.
Keep posting bhai...i m enjoying@enjoyingmyself :)
@ AGRARIAN : haan bhai log kahtein hai ki dard mein bhi mazza hai... u must hv heard of tht song - 'Jab dard nahin tha seene mein to kya khaak mazza tha jeene mein'....:p
@ anonymous : pata nahin yaar, lekin shayad har bandi aise nahin hoti n i just hope to be lucky enuf to catch one of them
@ Narendra : yaar yeh to tu theek keh raha hai..... ab agar din mein 2 ghante phone par lage rahoge to u wud be forced to learn to finish off ur work in remaining time.... so u gave me another advantage of a gf.... makes u a better time manager :p
@ atulji : chintaa mat karo.... sabse pahle aapko hi batayenge....:p aakhir aapse bachkar kahan jayenge
@ devil : sahi keh rahe ho bhai, har cheez life mein try zaroor karni chaiye, taaki baad mein kabhi afsoos na ho ki mauka choot gaya..... but relnships r really delicate to handle n its ur responsiblity tht u dont hurt other's feelings
@ aj : jaanta hun bhai... tu meri rag-rag se wafik hai... probably no-one else knows me better than u......
aur reliance ki scheme band ho gayi... now reliance is not the cheapest.... apni GK update karo bhai..
Hehe :), in my wing a "no-quiz" day means 2pm - 3 pm, GF call-up time, har koi busy ho jaata hai :))...
And yeah, Bohemianism is way too attractive to give up for a relationship, again I have only cn this side of a "laddoo"...so ya never knw :P
so amit,
wot a weird cannibal u r ??
u talk abot HAVING(eating) a gal frn ..
btw, hw many galfrns u hav consumed by nw?? ;)
jus kiddin yaar :)
saw the change of ur TITLE , n got this weird idea to comment again :)
Hey, I'm back!! :)
//sayesha(yeh to pata nahin kitna likhti hai.....:p)
Oye! What's dat supposed to mean?? :/
//one of my tuchha had a fight with her girlfriend over phone. the reason came out was tht the guy had forgotten her to wish 'Happy Rose Day'
WHAT?? Hahahahahahaha! :D Sheesh! Bechara! :D
@ ranjan : he he so slot booked hai 2-3 wala- ya to quiz ke liye nahin to phir GF ke liye :p. lekin aaj sat ko i believe no GF calling.... everybdy busy WACcing
@ shreedhar : hey, i never thot of tht connotation.... but yeh prespective bhi mast hai.... vaise unhe ladoo manane mein bhi kya burai hai..... apart frm the fact ki ladoo bahut jaldi khatam ho jaata hai
@ sayesha : yaar tum achha likhti ho aur bahut saara likhti ho.... if i miss ur blog fr a couple of dayz, i m sure then to miss a couple of posts.... sumtimes i wonder ki company tumhe kaam karne ke paise deti hai ya phir blogging ke....:p just kidding.... ur posts r usually too gud
//sumtimes i wonder ki company tumhe kaam karne ke paise deti hai ya phir blogging ke....:p
Well, I have a very clear ethics code. I never blog during office hours. I blog at night from home (I'm 2.5 hours ahead of India, remember?) Only if my home PC conks off, I'll blog at work, but ONLY during lunch break, not when it's work time :)
Alternatively, I blog from my comp room at uni before my class starts. :)
@ Sayesha : arre yaar tum to senti ho rahi ho...was just a joke...... infact i wonder ki tum itne ideas itne regular likhne ke liye laati kahan se aati ho........ i mein to sochta rehta hoon ki kya likhu ?
Amit
Good One man..
I guess its some kind of a need for a special person bug thats bitten a lot of people..
I know a lot of people at who are now going that extra mile to get that some body'special'..
hehehehe...this is tru gf gyan bhai...variable costs do go up ..i would go for a gf if i can somehow go for deficit financing thing ..hhehehee.. :)
gotta sleep now CHAO
love guru,
don't wait for that special someone to come into ur life..but make that someone in ur life special...pati toh pati nahi toh kalti!!!
your blog is super.. Hahha.. nice written.....
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